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I think the "Black" community has to come together to create a Detour for our youth.. I mean detour as a way to lead the youth away from crime and utilize the free time that they have.. If we as a community can do this, I think "Black" & "White" will see a small turn around in crime, drug, and gang activities. Therefore allowing us to focus on those that may need help more than others... Just My Thoughts!

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ChristianSol read my blog
May 8, 2008 | 5:18 PM

Please offer some suggestions

The_Future read my blog view my photos
May 9, 2008 | 9:47 AM

Well 1st of all I would say there should be some programs where kids not only go to as a day care but a program of teaching and real life situation classes. This will prepare them for the "What If's?" That will give children a real life option not just what they hear or see on T.V.!!

tidefan2188 read my blog
May 9, 2008 | 10:44 AM

Why should the community be responsible. Where are the parents? The comm. should not be responsible for jack the worthless parents are the problem.

bubbah read my blog
May 9, 2008 | 11:16 AM

Future,
That's what I've been saying for a while now.
There is a program that we can have here if we get enough people involved, it takes four consecutive days. It works. It is 90% effective as quoted and actually, I have experienced that it is 100% effective, but, people don't believe that so you say 90%.
It isn't free and it will take some work to get it here, but, it works. Taking the cheap way out as we do here as a matter of course, wil yeild familiar results = failure.

foxydiva1974 read my blog
May 9, 2008 | 11:45 AM

I personally think it should start with the parents first. And once there is a sense of unity and respect. Then I think it should be a community effort.

Destiny_Lane read my blog view my photos
May 9, 2008 | 1:30 PM

Please do not forget the old African adage, "That it takes a village to raise a child." This has long been the manner in which we operated our communities. It worked fifty years ago and it could work today. It appears that too many people are becoming too selfish. There is no more commitments to the betterment of the community. We have picked up on everyone else's culture and forsaken our own. That is why, we continue to fail to reach our children. Bubbah is right, we as a people have failed to seek funding and financial resources to create the type of social and economic programs to bring stability in the community. In the elite community they have association to overlook the development of their community; however, our community and our children are going to waste for lack of funding. Parents are just a small part of our problems because there has always been absentee parents in our community. Keep inquiring and God will lead you to the answer.

irishoaks read my blog view my photos
May 9, 2008 | 1:35 PM

Destiny, the funding is there and has been there. It is a matter of getting it. Since the efforts of MLK, federal, state, and local funding and efforts have poured millions into the effort for this very thing. It is already available. The problem is too many have grabbed it and put it in their private pockets and the community be -----.

foxydiva1974 read my blog
May 9, 2008 | 2:00 PM

The scriptures reads "Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it." If your child goes out and commit a crime they are not going to blame your community they will blame you as the parent. Your child is your responsibility not the communities. The community did not make the decision to have a child YOU (the parent did)! I feel the community can help enforce some of your rules. Parents spend more time with their children then its community. At least they are suppose to! When I was coming up my mother did not quote unquote have the help of the community. All of her kids are doing fine and they have not been in jail. We are all productive citizens, and it was not because of a village teaching us it was because we had a strong mother who gave us guidance, leadership and wisdom. She carried herself in a lady like manner at all times. She made sure we were active in our church. She is and was a great example. Parents need to be better examples for their children these new millennium parents do not want any responsibility. I feel they should be held more accountable not the community. As a member of my community I don’t mind pitching in but without the parents help, the community will get no place. Parents first!

The_Future read my blog view my photos
May 9, 2008 | 2:00 PM

Tide_Fan & Fox_Diva you both make a valid point, but yet I believe in what Destiny_Lane just wrote! We can hold parents responsible but don't punish the future because of the parents lack of guidance.. It trully takes a village and that's all I have to say on that..!

Bubbah how about this.. We do "VOLUNTEER" community service! I did a program in East Tennessee called "Each one Reach one" and that's where we as men go out into each community on saturdays and become a part of the childrens lives.. you may not save them all but if you atleast start with a few I promise eventually it might happen!!

I am willing to be one of the 1st to do these things to begin because the real problem is the large Gap Between the parents that raised us and the parents that are raising the children of today!

Just My Thoughts!!

foxydiva1974 read my blog
May 9, 2008 | 2:01 PM

I agree with you 100% Irishoaks!

foxydiva1974 read my blog
May 9, 2008 | 2:10 PM

Future, I don't think the children should be punished as well but we have so many kids who are products of their home environment. It is hard to reach them. When they have no respect they don't fear you, their mothers and anybody else for that matter. I am not saying throw in the towel of course but it is hard to reach kids would lack respect for themselves or you.

bubbah read my blog
May 9, 2008 | 5:25 PM

Future, I like the idea, but, there are way too many for that to be effective in memphis, the program I'm talking about addresses 50 to 350 at a time, it can actually address thousands at a time but it is designed to operate at around 250- 350. It is extrememly effective and we need to put it in to place, then "each one reach one" will work even better and you will see thousands stepping up to the plate and being succesful at it.

I'm working on something right now with a stellar group, it should work on giant swathes at a time.

bubbah read my blog
May 9, 2008 | 11:20 PM

PS. I think it's very easy to reach the kids. They make faces, but, they ARE just like us. They want to do well, they only need hope, direction, encouragement, and support, unwaveringly. Sometimes that will look easy, sometimes it's hard, sometimes you gotta use the rod, you always have to guide them. My kids have seen unspeakable adversity and they are doing fine so far, I'm proud of them, but, it wasn't easy to get them as far as I have and I'm not done.
If I could get a bldg and some help, I could train a lot of kids to succeed at whatever they design, adults too.

bubbah read my blog
May 9, 2008 | 11:25 PM

Maybe if we stopped thinking in terms of skin color based paradigms, even though right now there would be more of one color here getting support, and thought in terms of human beings in our region community, things would begin to tilt a different direction, not toward one, but toward all.
Water on an unlevel surface runs off the edge.

Heinz57
May 10, 2008 | 1:11 AM

It should be a combination of parents and community effort working with the kids to help guide these kids of today in the right direction. They are going to be the ones running the show when we get older. Some of these parents also need help in learning parent skills too. What to do and where to go to get help if you run into difficult situation. Life is not a easy especially nowadays. It'll take dedication & hard work to get them on the right track with everyone working together.

mercedes1682 read my blog
May 10, 2008 | 1:56 AM

I agree it takes a village to raise a child but some of the people in the villages are dope dealers and gangbangers. We need to rid our city of these undesirables and maybe we would have a chance to reach the youth of today. We can't reach them when their brains are so doped they can't understand or stand us as elder's.

irishoaks read my blog view my photos
May 10, 2008 | 8:30 AM

foxy's post is right on. The home is the first and foremost teacher. However if that teacher is drug crazed, irresponsible, lazy, sucking the givernment BLEEP when perfectly capable of working, criminal, sexually perverted, etc., then the responsibility will have to go to the community or 'village'. Also, the extended family comes into the raising. In my parents' time, families all lived close by and didn't move across the country. There were grandparents, aunts, uncles, older brothers and sisters, and close friends who fell into the category of family/village. Any and all could and would spank if necessary. Church was paramount in everyone's life. God lived and breathed in the home and in the schools and in the public places. He was revered and worshiped, not cursed and defiled. In smaller communities, all worshipped and schooled and played and worked together. It meant survival. It does today as well. It follows God's rule to do unto others as we would have them do unto us.

bubbah read my blog
May 10, 2008 | 11:15 PM

You won't get the ones who don't want to show up if it's voluntary, probably won't get the ones who will recieve the greatest benefit from it either, you'll get the choir.
If you institutionalize the training you'll get everyone and it won't take so long to get it finished. It will also shorten the amount of wasted time in the classroooms and brush up time.
When people have all their little BS handled, their minds are free to design a new future. If they haven't got those things handled they are distracted, upset, depressed, tired, sick, demotivated, failures, basicly the national description of the Memphis work force, but, what should they expect, Memphians under a certain income level are oppressed in this fashion.
It is cruel.

Pensmoke read my blog view my photos
May 11, 2008 | 6:23 PM

http://community.myfoxmemphis.com/blogs/Gourd_Dancer/20
08/04/24/Sick_of_only_Black_White

foxydiva1974 read my blog
May 12, 2008 | 7:51 AM

Hear Hear Irishoaks!! That is exactly what I am talking about!

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