SianSkye's Blog

Well I had my first child at the age of 14, and I don't consider my life a screw up. My parents taught me right from wrong, I knew better, but did it anyway. I don't know what was going through this young girls mind. Maybe she was scared. Did she even know she was pregnant? This may seem like a stupid question, but if you haven't been taught, you don't know. Had she received prenatal care? These are answers I would like to know before I say charge her.

MsKay - sounds like you were strong enough to make your life into what you wanted it to be. Unfortunately that is not the status quo with teen mothers. You are the exception and not the rule. :-) I can't help but believe that she knew she was pregenant. At 14 you know. At 14 I did and to be honest my mother NEVER talked about sex and pregnancy with me. And that was twenty years ago! What it boils down to is that she knew right from wrong. Killing is wrong and she deliberately tried to flush that living child. To me it does not matter if she was scared - she wasn't too scared to try to get rid of the evidence. One report I read on this said that other students heard the baby crying. She made her choice and now she should have to pay for taking a life.

Fly - you're absolutely right. There are so many other options. In this day and time this is inexcusable. I think too that they should look into the family situation here. I don't know if they should charge the parents in this case but there should be some accountability for the HUGE rise in teen pregnancy. If it means charging the parents then so be it. Unfortunately the majority of teen mothers end up on welfare and the taxpayers end up having to pay for teen mothers mistakes.

Amen Sonny. No excuses. She's guilty of murdering her child.

Sian, I'm not saying that it was a walk in the park. There where times that I wanted to throw my hands up, but realized that I made this choice, and had to deal with it. I also had a great support system, my mom and grandmothers. I thank them to this day. Teen pregnancy is an issue that needs to be addressed. Like you said, most of the time taxpayers will end up paying for their mistakes. I talk to the young ladies in my family about this issue all the time. When my children and I frequent places, people can't believe my oldest son belongs to me, he is soo tall. I tell them yes he is, I had him very early. I tell them, I don't call him a mistake, but tell them they should not be thinking about or having sex until they are married.

sian i have mixed feelings on this subject part of me says charge her and the other half feels sorry for her that she couldn't tell her mom or her mom was so ashamb that she wouldn't help her she might have went into shock and got really scared 14 yrs old some girls are not mature enough mskay you could tell your mom but not all girls can it is mixed feelings for me but they will do a evaluation on this girl

Unless she was mentally challenged with a mental age of an 8 or 9 year old, she knew she was having sexual relations and that sexual relations can result in pregnancy. She would know that cessation of her periods and growing abdomen means pregnancy along with movement within. The lack of moral responsibility that school administration has today, the 14 year old could have received care without parental knowledge and the girl could have worn baggy clothes to hide the pregnamcy. If the parents knew about the pregnamcy, they would have been responsible to take the teen to prenatal care and instruction.
The fact that the teen gave birth to a live baby and put that baby head down in the toilet and drowned it while trying to flush it is premeditated murder.
"I scared" is the out excuse for all. There are so many who want to adopt. All she had to do was to take that baby to the police or hospital or other safe place and relinquish parental rights and get on with her life. Now she is a murderer who has killed an innocent.

Irish Oaks - Well put. :-)

sian i guess i needed to read all your blog she notified a counseler about what she did now that answers alot of questions she is guilty she knew what she was doing she wanted sex but not what comes with having sex the baby was alive there is so many couples that want babies and can't have them and then this young girl drowns her baby she needs to be charged

55 - That statement about going to the counselor herself caught my eye. Says a lot about the situation doesn't it?

Foxy - I know that todays fourteen year olds know a LOT more than I did 20 years ago.

Sian you will have to keep us updated on this if you hear anything new.